What Do you Want? Love..?❤

In a world so free of choice I feel like we’re so overwhelmed with options we can’t ever decide on only one thing. We become a jack-of-all-trades in order to really take advantage of the availability of everything in the world. And of course, we apply this to relationships. We want so many things, and it never fits into one single person.

I hope one thing is certain:

We all want love.

But the degree of love is up in the air. Some people demand more, less, equivalent, conditional, unconditional. Whatever your desire, I’m sure at least one person shares it. But no other person shares the same life as you; the same thoughts, the same values, the same needs. And this is where we find conflict in pretty much every other individual we confront.

I hate it when you say one thing, but you mean something else. And it’s nobody’s fault, but someone gets hurt. When someone says he loves you, and truly does, and you say you love him too, but beyond all that you want to be together and share a future but he doesn’t think a future exists.

The classic quote, “I love you, but I can’t be with you” always breaks my heart.

So why spend your life searching for that object of love just to let it go? Once you find it, I’d assume, you’d want to keep it locked in a case where you hold the key wrapped around your neck. But I realize some people live only for the search for love and don’t have any intention to keep it captive. So how are we ever going to get what we want?

Do we even really want anything? Or are we too obsessed about the want for something everyone is supposed to want? We either spend a lifetime searching for love, fantasizing about it and with whom we might have it with, or we spend a lifetime resenting it after realizing how much pain, stress, and frustration that accompanies it. Can we ever have the love the way we want it? Or will it always be that ungraspable piece of life we can never get our hands on?

So I guess it makes sense for the community to live with a diversity of relationships since no one commitment will completely do the trick. To associate oneself in a multitude of love relations so we’ll never essentially run out of it. In love, I'm that kind that focus on one thing and do it amazingly well, somehow at the end of the day, i'm still the second option. Can that apply to love?

Can we find all our fulfillment in one person if we direct all our attention to it?

minxy: was inspired to write this post after much talking to a good friend UngUng, i hope he'll soon find his true love.