We can't make bricks without clays

Let’s face it. We love to lie.
Lying is almost an inherent part of being human. We lie to friends when the truth is too harsh to reveal; we lie to parents when the truth is too wrong to divulge; we lie to ourselves when the truth is too difficult to deal with. But no matter who you lie to, what you lie about and when you decide to lie, there is one truth that stands.
We lie.

But before we condemn ourselves for the inherent untruthful part of our species’ nature, we must ask ourselves the following question:

Why do we lie?

And the answer to this, I believe lies, in another, similar question:

What on earth is truth?

Any talk about dishonesty must first be matched with a discussion on the implications of honesty itself. Truth is a difficult term to define. What is truth? Who defines it? What drives us toward believing in it? These are questions left for the philosophers and thinkers to answer. But in my amateur opinion, truth is arbitrary. What I hold as my truths will differ from a young Muslim boy living on the streets of Istanbul, or an old Christian woman retiring in her home in Switzerland. In essence, eternal truth does not exist, nor does it matter in the grand scheme of things. Truth, in its entirety, is solely defined by the thinker and only the thinker.

So why then do we lie?

The answer is surprisingly simple.
We lie because we believe our own truths does not match what others’ hold as truths. We lie in order to search for the truth of the majority – the truth that a lot, if not most, of the human beings on the planet believe in. Truth, in contrast to what most people think, can only be found when enough lying has been done. We will only differentiate between falsified information and truthful accounts of experience once we’ve received enough falsified accounts.

Remember: we cannot make bricks without clay.

Now before you accuse this blog of teaching children the wrong thing, let me clarify. I’m not supporting lying, or at least not in the nitty-gritty sense. Lying is not good. Lying is the wrong thing to do when your objective is only to put responsibility that you should’ve owned up to on someone else’s shoulder.
I’m not talking about that type of lying.
I’m talking about fiction. Lying on the grander scheme. Lying in order to ultimately find a greater goal – a greater truth about life, yourself and those around you. A friend’s white lie in order to find out the truth about a situation. An author’s fictional element in his own autobiography in order to get his own point across. Or a father’s lie to his son in order to stress the importance of a concept, idea or rule he’s teaching. These lies are those that guide us to a truth – a betterment of the scenario around you. And these are the lies that are – to some extent – supported by good conscience

路

台北的午夜有一種想念的氣味　它總是讓人難以入眠　讓人哽咽
那房間的煙味想著誰想著誰　它總是不經意的又一次
有意思　沒意思在耳邊無理徘徊
真的有一點累　真的無力我向後退
因為你的一句問候不能代表　你真的能體會

我知道這一路的風風雨雨　它總是讓人跌倒
也知道這一路的曲曲折折　會模糊了我的想要
未來也許飄渺　我的力量也許很渺小
要讓你知道執著是我　唯一的驕傲

Merry Christmas

Things ALWAYS get better, and you should be alive to see it.

Catches the bad, let's in the good.

For every rose petal, for every kiss you gave me.


Come follow me into the night.


Newtons cradle.

 
 Eyes bluer than the brightest skies.

 
Find beauty in yourself.

 
Shine bright like a diamond,
I found energy in the sun rays.


I find it easier to run away from my problems,
then to deal with them.

 
I really want a caterpillar roll.

 
Hugs and Kisses


 I like her make up 0_o

 

I am the size of a 12 year old. And I look like a 12 year old. There should be NO reason why they refuse to sell me a kids meal.

其实只是时间问题

一
人是很容易滋生惰性，

经常憋不住气就松懈下来。某次，M对我说，想想看，自己那么拼干嘛。我想了很久这个问题，对啊，那么拼干嘛，图什么，为了什么。
很多东西走不开，很多东西落不下，我有时候会告诉自己，我终于知道了自己希望得到什么。
可是有时候又会怀疑自己，人生始终是这么矛盾的东西。
 

二
工作很忙碌，很辛苦，有时候真的很想好好睡觉，慰劳我那长期劳损的肩膀。
其实这都还好，真正折磨人的是忙忙碌碌，却始终得不到某种安全感。
这才是真的可悲。
某些体会，在慢慢流逝的时间里，自然而然就体会到，逃都逃不掉。
我始终记得这句话，我们肯定不是过得最糟糕的，虽然不是最好的。
 

三
我已经放弃了某些东西，也很接受现实。
毕竟这个世界上大多数人都是普通人，大多数人在做自己想做的事情的时候还是要受到钱的掣肘。
何况人，总有满足不完的欲望。
谁不恨，谁恨。
都没太大意义。
 

四
我图一个稳定的生活，我已经不想做太多的改变。
我希望生活可以继续这样下去。
再未来，我只希望我，我的家人，我男人，我孩子，我的狗，平安。
至于其他，其实，无知的后排围观群众是最幸福的。
我正在努力朝着这个方向发展，其实只是时间问题。

性感

性感是一种状态，一种气质，一种表达。女人可以不漂亮，但不能不性感.

“性感

是一种以内心的智慧和外在的妖娆修炼而得的一种状态、气质和表达”，全面而不失优雅地表现了她极力倡导的观点"

谁相信过，等到天昏地暗的爱情？

爱情在时间里堆积，在
死亡中结束。

或许一个浪漫得接近俗气的故事，却真的让我哭过，感动过。

承认

你总是一副不在意的样子
在我面前笑嘻嘻 话语如儿戏
我对你充满疑意
然而当他的手挥舞在我的肩臂
突然你的眉间多了一丝严厉
而在你眼里找到的却是怜惜
你转过身去 拳已攥紧

你承认吧 你需要我
可你需要更多的是勇气
你害怕失去 更害怕一个人的孤寂
我承认了 我需要你
选择友谊是对爱情的逃避
试着抛开怀疑 因为我已经无力再抗拒

我总是猜不透你的用意
曾经试图一而再 再而三读懂你
如果说我不在意 那也是一出戏 这不是秘密
在你面前我无须掩盖什么东西
因为你懂我的点点滴滴
我只是来不及 承认自己

你承认吧 你需要我
可你需要更多的是勇气
你害怕失去 更害怕一个人的孤寂
我承认了 我需要你
选择友谊是对爱情的逃避
试着抛开怀疑 因为我已经无力再抗拒

看不清 弄不明
我不想再猜测什么
只要听你说"我需要你！"
(承认了，我承认了……)

You never really understand a person, until you consider things from his point of view - To Kill A Mockingbird

So you sailed away
Into a grey sky morning

For the previous 5 years I’ve wished on the candles of my yearly birth count

                with one purpose—serious relationship.

Ever word you say to me,I take to heart.

#california

 Some people are just not meant to be in your life, no matter how much you want them to be. #so crabby :/

hmph... why would i even try ...

The amount of internal struggles I'm going through right now <<

Lets find a bar in the dark and forget who we are.

I will love you until you learn to love yourself.

We’re just two lost souls swimming in a fish bowl, year after year. What have we found? The same old fears. Wish you were here.

I wish I wasn't broke. #JoblessProblems

I can't breathe without you, but I have to.

I'd trade sleep for you in a heartbeat.

A drop in the ocean

I keep making dumb mistakes…Honestly, you turned out to be the best thing I never had,  so fed up with my thoughts of you, and our memories.

Stride of pride. Rock that shit

I could listen to people talk about who they wish they would be or how they plan on living their lives because their current lifestyle isn’t satisfying, only because it’s interesting how much thought they put into it and fail to achieve a happier life.
Obviously your current life doesn’t bother you enough to change it.

女人學會了自立
一個人，一顆心，一生等待。
一個人，一條路，一生孤單。
在以前，哭的時候沒人哄，學會了堅強；
怕的時候沒人陪、她學會了勇敢；

煩的時候沒人問、她學會了承受：
累的時候沒人可以依靠、她學會了自立；
不埋怨誰、不嘲笑誰、也不羡慕誰!

High School

Going throughout life, it is crucial to meet and make friends. These are generally people who are a joy to be around, are entertaining and are easy to connect with. They can be helpful with solving problems or just being there for you. But sometimes, there are people who should be avoided at all costs. They hurt more than they help, cause pain or are a waste of time. One must differentiate between the good and the bad, and this is a mini guide to three main types of friends people may face in their lifetime, especially during the turbulent high school years.

The Emo
This is a friend who will call in the middle of the night, as they babble incoherently about, well, nothing. It is possible to be sympathetic at first, offering advice or a helping hand as they venture through a tough time. Then there is the miraculous realization that their dramatic, nervous breakdowns in the school hallway happen once a week. This is a tough situation to deal with, because many feel guilt walking away from a relationship like this. But if the person isn't taking advice as is just crying for attention and doesn't care about your needs, they can bring a person down.

BackstabberWhether they are stealing a significant other or not, I believe that everyone has experienced backstabbing to some degree in their life. It's just the way life goes. These friends can be pretty hard to pick out though. They may be elementary school acquaintances or a recently acquired friend. These people are almost entirely unavoidable unless they have had a reputation of being a backstabber in the past. When it comes to boyfriend/girlfriend takers, there are entire cliques built on the foundation of dating each other. But some people just don't think that is right. So maybe the best bet would be to figure out their views beforehand. There are different ways to recoup after a backstabbing, one being to forgive and forget. The impact of the backstabbing can determine if this is the right path to take, because sometimes forgiving just isn't possible, and walking away from the entire relationship is all that works. The loss of a friend might hurt, but the outcome will be better in the end and you won't get walked all over anymore.

The MoocherEnough said. This person always appears to be in need of something, anything! And you may be left feeling used, which isn't a feeling a friend should provide. In high school, some simple examples are rides to football games, rides, or anything else. Sure, at first it may not seem like enough to drop a friend over, but if it becomes consistent it can become annoying. Being helpful all the time is part of being a friend, but where are they when you need them the most? This is something to think about when looking at a friend.

Overall, friendships change and travel stormy seas throughout the school years. One has to be tough to get through it the right way. Be friends with those who are kind and considerate. Think about how they treat you, and if they are worth dragging along for the ride.

Sometimes people just need someone to sit and listen. No advice, no talking, just listen

Your beliefs doesn't make you a better person, your behavior does.

YOU ARE BY FAR THE MOST ANNOYING PERSON ON EARTH WHY ARE YOU ALWAYS TRAILING

Try to play me and f#$!ing die.

The idea that someone can form a complete idea of who you are only based on what they know about you via the Internet scares/fascinates me.

Lana Del Rey - Paris (+Download)

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Puppy Love

"Makes you say, “Yolo.” Cause your the class president without Jackie O and I’m singing ‘Happy Birthday’ like Marilyn Monroe. 1. This is not a school girl crush. 2. This is not a puppy love, it’s the real thing when you told me you loved me, promise I’ll never see Arthur or Bobby, baby.” - Lana Del Rey

Kinda Out of Luck - Is it so wrong that I think it’s kinda fun when I hit you in the back of the head with a gun?

"Stay"

Mayday Parade

- i get mixed feelings while watching this video, oh well oh well.

Goodbye August

 baby you are fading away~

 YSL YSL YSL

where's my teddy bear?

I’d rather give you the world, or we could share mine.

 i came to win, i came to fly

 would die if i got these.

i came, i saw, i conquer #That's Dolphy

: The Owner

The Conqueror with an "awww" face...

my doggy sends kisses in thanks #mwah

The second I stopped hugging my dog he ran. I THOUGHT YOU WANTED TO CUDDLE 😭

My.Song..

Things I've learned about men and relationships

 At this age, I still consider myself pretty much a noob as far as relationships go.  But I have come a long way (and I still have a long way to go!) in understanding men.  Below is a list of discoveries and lessons I have learned throughout the years.

1. Do not start arguments in public.
I find that this is one the most embarrassing and tasteless things you can do.  It also makes everyone around you feel super awkward.  The best thing is to either pull him aside privately or just walk out.

2. Do not offer to take a shot/drink for your boyfriend.
It insults his manhood; just let him puke.

3. Speak out.
Girls always wanted the guys they dated to comfort them, tell them that things will be okay, or agree that whoever pissed them off is an asshole.What I wanted is logical advice – which is actually very useful when I’m stubbornly being an emotional wreck.  If you want to find comfort, go to your girlfriends – they’re usually better at it.

4. Meat is his aphrodisiac.

I’m pretty sure a juicy steak would get him much more excited, not chocolate dipped strawberries, oysters, or champagne.

5. Don’t poll your friends and use the results to support your argument.
Friends often have very similar outlook and beliefs, so there’s a likely chance that they would agree with you anyway.  (Or if they’re girls, they would probably find something to agree with you on to make you feel better.  See #3.)   The relationship is between you and your boyfriend, so don’t bring outsiders’ opinions in – it doesn’t matter how many of your girlfriends feel it’s right that their boyfriends buy them a two carat engagement ring.

6. Do not volunteer your boyfriend or RSVP for him.
I've made this mistake…twice.  No matter how sure you are he is up for it or assume that since you’re doing it, he would too.  He is still his own person – ask and let him decide.

7. Don’t make him do kissy noises over the phone in front of his friends.
Let him have some dignity.

8. Let things go.
Some things are just not worth having the last word over.

We go together like Asian girls and designer bags

Nope, not stereotypical at all.

Because when it’s backed up by data, it’s a fact right?

• Luxury Brands Follow the Money to Asia
• Asian Markets Keeping the Global Luxury Brands Industry Alive
• The biggest opportunity for luxury brands in a generation
• China to become the world’s largest market for luxury goods over the next decade

Be careful asking people what’s going on in their lives.

 The last time I did that, the person told me that she was getting over her breakup, and hoping to find a job after being out of work for two years. This was 5 minutes after meeting her for the first time.  Awkward.

Shut up about my work.
When people ask me where I work or what I do for a living, I give a generic response.  Most people ask because they’re making small talk but don’t really care—except when they’re trying to sell something to you. Otherwise, your achievements are not interesting unless you’ve discovered the cure for cancer or something like that.
I also don’t like telling people I work in as a R.E.N That’s because there’s a 50-50% chance they will end up asking me where I think the market is headed – which gives them an opening to TELL YOU their opinions, which 99% of the time, is a repeat of what’s already been said in the media.  It’s a set up.

Shut up about my kid.*
When I become a mom, I will make sure I don’t spend more than 10 minutes talking about my kids.  I’m not sure what the acceptable time is for parents to spend talking about this, but being on the receiving end of the conversation I personally start zoning out at around 10-15 minutes.  I get that most parents are extremely proud of their kid’s daily progress, but I honestly don’t care about his pooping routine or favorite character on Disney.
Every normal, healthy kid learns to talk and potty train at some point in their childhood.  Mozart learned to play the piano when he was three and wrote his first composition at age of five.  What did your kid do today that warranted you talking about him for 60 minutes non-stop?
* Exceptions are when I’m talking with my kids’ grandparents or sharing parenting advice with other moms.

 I try not to ask acquaintances what’s going on in their lives anymore.

七夕。快乐。

(∩_∩) 天空等待银河，等得很美丽。牛郎等待织女，等得很美丽。爱情等待幸福，等得很美丽。人生等待祝福，依旧很美丽。用一份美丽的心情祝你：七夕快乐!

Not Ready for Marriage?

I find it interesting when my friends tell me they're not ready for marriage and then go on to explain something that totally does not have anything to do with marriage itself.

Top reason of all is, "I want to focus on my career and be financially stable to sustain a family". Honestly, I don't even know what that means. Maybe if you are neck deep in debt and you're trying to get out of it, I can understand that, but generally speaking, what does having a great career and making more money have anything to do with marriage? Are you only capable of focusing on one important aspect of your life at one time? Will there ever be a point where you are completely satisfied with what you have accomplished and will take a step back?

If anything, I believe that marriage supports that unless you plan on marrying someone who is just gold-digging. If that's the case, you would never make enough.

Another popular reason is that once you get married, you'll be on lockdown and you won't be able to do what you have always wanted to do. The reality is that if you're 30 and you still haven't done most of those things on your bucket list, it's mostly because you have been procrastinating and making excuses.

  I always wanted to travel more, but the reality was that I kept on saying it was a bad time or I didn't have enough money. The truth was, I just didn't make traveling a real goal and priority in my life and it would probably never be.

 Besides, why would marriage stop you from doing those things you wanted anyway? If you married the right person, either you do those things together, or they would support you in doing those things if it isn't something they're interested in. Granted, there are some things that I had to rethink like escaping to Cali, but like I said earlier, if it was really that much of a priority in my life, I would have done it already.

 When I hear these reasons, I feel like people have this idea that marriage is a prison. Once you get married, all yor attention has to be there. In my opinion, that only happens if you've settled and married the wrong person. If you married someone who isn't supportive of you and you in turn will not be supportive of them. You married someone who cares about their own happiness much more than yours. And the mistake here is choosing the wrong person, not choosing marriage.


stay tune for the next one coming up : 

Friends going out with your Ex, Weird or Not?