Thursday, August 30, 2012
I’d rather give you the world, or we could share mine.
i came, i saw, i conquer #That's Dolphy
Tuesday, August 28, 2012
Things I've learned about men and relationships
At this age, I still consider myself pretty much a noob as far as relationships go. But I have come a long way (and I still have a long way to go!) in understanding men. Below is a list of discoveries and lessons I have learned throughout the years.
1. Do not start arguments in public.
I find that this is one the most embarrassing and tasteless things you can do. It also makes everyone around you feel super awkward. The best thing is to either pull him aside privately or just walk out.
2. Do not offer to take a shot/drink for your boyfriend.
It insults his manhood; just let him puke.
3. Speak out.
Girls always wanted the guys they dated to comfort them, tell them that things will be okay, or agree that whoever pissed them off is an asshole.What I wanted is logical advice – which is actually very useful when I’m stubbornly being an emotional wreck. If you want to find comfort, go to your girlfriends – they’re usually better at it.
4. Meat is his aphrodisiac.
I’m pretty sure a juicy steak would get him much more excited, not chocolate dipped strawberries, oysters, or champagne.
5. Don’t poll your friends and use the results to support your argument.
Friends often have very similar outlook and beliefs, so there’s a likely chance that they would agree with you anyway. (Or if they’re girls, they would probably find something to agree with you on to make you feel better. See #3.) The relationship is between you and your boyfriend, so don’t bring outsiders’ opinions in – it doesn’t matter how many of your girlfriends feel it’s right that their boyfriends buy them a two carat engagement ring.
6. Do not volunteer your boyfriend or RSVP for him.
I've made this mistake…twice. No matter how sure you are he is up for it or assume that since you’re doing it, he would too. He is still his own person – ask and let him decide.
7. Don’t make him do kissy noises over the phone in front of his friends.
Let him have some dignity.
8. Let things go.
Some things are just not worth having the last word over.
Friday, August 24, 2012
We go together like Asian girls and designer bags
Nope, not stereotypical at all.
Because when it’s backed up by data, it’s a fact right?
Because when it’s backed up by data, it’s a fact right?
Be careful asking people what’s going on in their lives.
The last time I did that, the person told me that she was getting over her breakup, and hoping to find a job after being out of work for two years. This was 5 minutes after meeting her for the first time. Awkward.
Shut up about my work.
When people ask me where I work or what I do for a living, I give a generic response. Most people ask because they’re making small talk but don’t really care—except when they’re trying to sell something to you. Otherwise, your achievements are not interesting unless you’ve discovered the cure for cancer or something like that.
I also don’t like telling people I work in as a R.E.N That’s because there’s a 50-50% chance they will end up asking me where I think the market is headed – which gives them an opening to TELL YOU their opinions, which 99% of the time, is a repeat of what’s already been said in the media. It’s a set up.
Shut up about my kid.*
When I become a mom, I will make sure I don’t spend more than 10 minutes talking about my kids. I’m not sure what the acceptable time is for parents to spend talking about this, but being on the receiving end of the conversation I personally start zoning out at around 10-15 minutes. I get that most parents are extremely proud of their kid’s daily progress, but I honestly don’t care about his pooping routine or favorite character on Disney.
Every normal, healthy kid learns to talk and potty train at some point in their childhood. Mozart learned to play the piano when he was three and wrote his first composition at age of five. What did your kid do today that warranted you talking about him for 60 minutes non-stop?
* Exceptions are when I’m talking with my kids’ grandparents or sharing parenting advice with other moms.
I try not to ask acquaintances what’s going on in their lives anymore.
Thursday, August 23, 2012
Wednesday, August 22, 2012
Not Ready for Marriage?
I find it interesting when my friends tell me they're not ready for marriage and then go on to explain something that totally does not have anything to do with marriage itself.
Top reason of all is, "I want to focus on my career and be financially stable to sustain a family". Honestly, I don't even know what that means. Maybe if you are neck deep in debt and you're trying to get out of it, I can understand that, but generally speaking, what does having a great career and making more money have anything to do with marriage? Are you only capable of focusing on one important aspect of your life at one time? Will there ever be a point where you are completely satisfied with what you have accomplished and will take a step back?
If anything, I believe that marriage supports that unless you plan on marrying someone who is just gold-digging. If that's the case, you would never make enough.
Another popular reason is that once you get married, you'll be on lockdown and you won't be able to do what you have always wanted to do. The reality is that if you're 30 and you still haven't done most of those things on your bucket list, it's mostly because you have been procrastinating and making excuses.
I always wanted to travel more, but the reality was that I kept on saying it was a bad time or I didn't have enough money. The truth was, I just didn't make traveling a real goal and priority in my life and it would probably never be.
Besides, why would marriage stop you from doing those things you wanted anyway? If you married the right person, either you do those things together, or they would support you in doing those things if it isn't something they're interested in. Granted, there are some things that I had to rethink like escaping to Cali, but like I said earlier, if it was really that much of a priority in my life, I would have done it already.
stay tune for the next one coming up :
Friends going out with your Ex, Weird or Not?
Oxymoron
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Usually there willl be some research regarding the must-sees, but I just want to see everything, good or bad. If you have 7 days off, you're going to use up all 7 to see and do as much as possible.
~The key is to strike a good balance -- or else you will either feel too bored and/or be overstimulated.
What's your idea of a vacation?
Tuesday, August 21, 2012
A few things:
Exciting in the fact that it’s a new chapter in my life— supportive partner, makes me learn to strive and a new setting to adapt to.
Heartbreaking in the fact that I’m leaving the nest i used to pampered in, the real part of life starts now. I’m about as scared as the little bird that gets pushed out of the tree, but I know it has to happen. I’m going to miss that path, but oh well..
Bazar in the fact that I’m old now. Well, physically I’m 26—turning 29 in a couple of years. I don’t feel old, and I don’t like lingering on that number. Age is a state of mind yeah? but it’s crazy to think of all the things my body has been through. The hard times and the good times.
WEll, before I start crying I better stop, nothing is worst than saying bye to my mother. I owe her my world..
The road may twist, or get bumpy,
but never stop walking
Sparks Fly
Just because you read some sad words on fb, doesn’t mean you know anything about me anymore. These posts may be some of my deepest thoughts, but it’s not everything. Not even close.
Thursday, August 16, 2012
Tuesday, August 14, 2012
Friday, August 10, 2012
I. Just. Want. To. Be. The. Happiest. Girl...
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